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How to: If you would like to find out more about getting married or baptised please either come to our Saturday surgery (10.30-11.30am in St Saviour's) or contact Fr Will directly (01803 414767).  He will then arrange to meet with you to have an initial conversation, and if you decide to proceed to find a date and time for the service to take place.  He will then arrange for a further meeting with you, to explain what happens at the service, and the kind of promises that you are making for yourselves, and for your child. We also hope that you’ll want to come to worship with us, and that we’ll see you sometimes at our main Sunday service which is at 11am
 

Getting Married
Congratulations...
We’re delighted that you are thinking about getting married in the Parish of Dartmouth - we look forward to sharing the celebration with you, and to supporting you in the future.
The Benefice of Dartmouth and Dittisham takes the preparation of those seeking a church wedding very seriously. Christians believe that your love for each other reflects something of God’s love for each of us, and that love is God’s greatest gift to us. We wish to celebrate with great joy the fact that you have found each other and wish to make this lifelong commitment.
If you are not already a member of the church here, we hope and expect you will strongly consider becoming one. We look forward to working with you as you plan both your wedding day and the rest of your married life together – and will hope to support you not only in the short-term, but also in the medium and long-term.

Marriage and the Law
In order to be married in any Parish Church in England you have, by law, to meet certain requirements – which have to do with your status as a baptised person, your resident status in the UK, your place of geographical residence and/or the place where you habitually worship. There are also considerations which are relevant to those who have been married before. In accordance with the regulations of the Bishops of the Church of England, the normal practice for those who have been divorced is for there to be a blessing in church following a civil wedding.
Before you do anything else come and see a member of our ministry team during the Surgery hour 10.30-11.30am every Saturday in St Saviour’s. They will explain the law as it applies to your marriage and will discuss the possibilities of either a Wedding Service in church (if you are able to fulfil the requirements for this) or (in other circumstances) a Blessing after a Civil Marriage. Whichever is possible, we aim to support and encourage you as a couple as you begin your married life together.

Marriage Preparation
A wedding day is a few short hours – but a marriage is a lifetime together.
Alongside the lavish preparations you will be making for your ‘big day’, you will be expected to attend our Wedding Preparation Day where the significance of Christian marriage is stressed and practical advice is given. This will also be an opportunity to meet the clergy, the director of music and the parish administrator, who will ensure we have recorded your details correctly and arrange for your Banns of Marriage to be called in church. We will also expect that you will attend marriage preparation meetings with the member of the Clergy who is to conduct your wedding. As part of these meetings, you will receive further instruction and guidance and make decisions about the resources open to you, such as your choice of music, readings, prayers and flowers for your Wedding Service.
Underpinning the advice given at these meetings are the convictions that a good marriage depends on the ability to communicate well, to exhibit flexibility, to be aware of strengths and potential weaknesses in your relationship, to have shared values and to address differences and conflict effectively.
Some resources that may be useful as you plan your wedding day are downloadable here:

Click here for information on the marriage service

Click here for some suggested readings

 

Thanksgiving, Baptism & Confirmation

Thanksgiving and Baptism
We’re delighted you’re thinking of baptism for your child. Your child is precious to you and precious to God. At baptism you promise to raise your child to know God loves them, and to help them to follow Jesus as a member of the Church.
In baptism, you as parents are thanking God for his gift of life, making a decision to start your child on the journey of faith and asking for the Church’s support. Christians believe that baptism marks a highly important moment in our lives; through the water of baptism we are joined to Jesus in a unique way, so that it marks the beginning of an eternity of friendship with him. Baptism is sometimes called by an old English word, Christening. Baptism and Christening are the same thing, and this old English word reminds us that it is about being made one with Jesus Christ.
Baptisms in the parish of Dartmouth usually take place during the main Sunday morning Eucharist at 11am.  At Baptism we each become members of the local and world-wide family of the church and it is therefore important that church members are there to welcome their new brother or sister.
When you bring your child for baptism, you are asked to declare publicly on behalf of your child that you believe in God and that you will bring your child up to follow Jesus.
You should have at least three godparents: two of the same sex as the child and one of the opposite sex. Godparents can be family members or friends. However, it is important that you choose people who will take an interest in your child’s spiritual welfare and who will pray for you and your child. Godparents must themselves have been baptised. Godparents make the same promises on behalf of the child being baptised as parents. Godparents promise to pray and support the child and to help the parents to bring up the child in the Christian faith. It is an important and responsible role, though primarily a spiritual one - it is not the same as being a legal guardian for instance.
You may feel that Baptism is too big a step to take on behalf of your child just at the moment. If this is the case we do offer thanksgivings for the safe arrival of your precious baby. During this simple service we thank God for being entrusted with the joy of parenthood and pray that guided by God we may be given the strength to make a good job of it.



 

Confirmation
Children and teenagers are prepared for Confirmation and First Communion generally from 11 years of age and above if they demonstrate a desire for deeper involvement in the Church’s life and the Christian Faith and have the support of their parents.
Adults too, who may not have been baptised as children, may find themselves wishing to make a commitment to Christ and to the life of the Church. In such cases, Baptism, Confirmation and First Communion are administered at the same time, after a period of preparation together with other adults exploring faith.
The clergy will be happy to discuss ways in which you can deepen your level of commitment and involvement and the practical issues concerning the sacraments of Baptism and Confirmation.

Bereavement, Funerals and Memorial Services

Please contact us whenever you need to.

The clergy of the parish are skilled and experienced in helping families to deal with the trauma of death and loss, and the parish of Dartmouth has considerable musical and liturgical resources, that can help you to arrange an appropriate service – whether that is a Funeral or a Memorial Service.
We can, and want to help before the point of death too – rather than being summoned after the event, we would much prefer to be called during times of serious illness when spiritual questions and anxieties can become particularly prominent in patients and their families.
Support before and at the time of death is what we should all want for ourselves and our loved ones. Often the thoughtful, prayerful company of a member of the clergy or a trained visitor can help to guide people through challenging and uncharted waters as their life, or the life of their loved-one, draws to a close.
If you would like to discuss a visit, a Funeral or a Memorial Service please contact the Vicar, Fr. Will Hazlewood on 01803 414767.

Burials
St Clement's Churchyard is the only one of our churchyards still open for burials; the town cemetery at Longcross is the responsibility of Dartmouth Town Council: email: clerk@dartmouthtowncouncil.org  01803 832281
The Garden of Remembrance at St Petrox and the graveyard at St Clement's Church remain open for the burial of ashes for those who have a connection with Dartmouth and the surrounding area. The mortal remains of loved ones are laid to rest during a simple service of committal.  Please contact Fr Will or the parish office for more information.
Download forms for St Petrox Garden of Remembrance:
Explanatory Letter Click here
Garden of Remembrance Burial Form Click here 
Book of Remembrance Form Click here
Gift Aid Form Click here

Memorial Stones
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Office: Saint Saviour's Church, TQ6 9DL, Dartmouth, Devon, United Kingdom
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office@parishofdartmouth.co.uk